3% Leaders are strong in three areas – Strength of Self Mastery, Strength of Action, and Strength of Relationships.

Some people may be strong in one or two areas, but weak in the others. Success in Leadership takes mastering the total package, the combination of all three. Heighten your awareness in each of the categories to assist you in the process of mastering all three.

It is no coincidence that number one is Self Mastery. Unless you can master your self, what else can you hope to master? The Genesis of Self Mastery is knowing who you ARE. Now who you’ve been up to this point. Too often we define ourselves by our past. Don’t spend wasteful time dwelling on your past. You are not a victim of your past. Begin defining yourself as who you are BECOMING. That is who you are. Not what you’ve done in the past or what you’ve accomplished.

The common denominator between successful proven leaders is that we all deserve to embrace into the cellular structure of who we are – the simple concept of Personal Responsibility. Personal Responsibility is the first Decision of Success – The Buck Stops With Me. Complete ownership of everything in your life, not just your career, will enhance your business, your enterprise, and your life.

At the start of Strength of Self Mastery, we discussed proper goal setting. Don’t make it more complicated than it really is. What is it What is that one thing in your life that when you’re backed up into the corner, that you say no more, turn around, and you’ve got that look in your eye, I don’t care if you’ve got foam coming out of your mouth, you go, this is my goal, I dare you to stop me. That is a real goal. It’s not a wish. It’s not a want. It’s going to happen.

Stick To Your Mission! These are 4 very important words. Write them on your whiteboard, or on a piece of paper and stick it to your computer, your fridge, your bathroom mirror. Wherever you will see it constantly throughout your day. Stick To Your Mission!

There is an old ancient adage. If you want to beat someone, distract them. Many things throughout your day will be masqueraded as opportunities. These opportunities will present themselves because of a particular talent that you possess. Maybe it’s because somebody will find something in you that at least you will listen to them. Be clear that distractions are anything that gets between you and your goal. (Such as sleep! lol Just kidding!)

What is your mission? Can you define it in just one or two sentences? Can you list opportunities in your path that are really distractions? Are you going to allow yourself to get distracted? Distractions could be phone calls, or e-mails, or any number of things that keep you from doing the things that will move you forward.

Plan your day before it plans you! None of us have arrived, because we let distractions get in our way. Find things in your day that will move you forward and Stick To Your Mission!

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You know, by saying things like “I have no chance in hell”, “I can’t do this”, “there’s no way this will work for me”, or “I’m not good enough”, “I’m not smart enough”, “I don’t have what it takes”, or “I’ll never be as good as so and so”, “I don’t have enough time to make this work”, or “I can’t make this work”?

When you say these things, you are creating your own roadblocks. Thoughts are things. Whatever you think about, you bring about. Even if you do not believe in the Law of Attraction, these forces are in place whether you acknowledge them or not. It’s like the Law of Gravity. The Law of Gravity existed even before the Apple fell on Newton’s head and he gave it a name. It is a principle.

When you think things, it puts that energy out into the Universe for manifestation. So, if you are thinking that you can’t do something, guess what, you are right, you won’t be able to do whatever it is you are trying to do.

So, in 2010 let’s get our heads on straight and turn those negative statements into positive statements. Instead of “I have no chance in hell”, let’s try “I have every chance in the world to succeed”. Instead of “I’m not good enough”, let’s try “I am more than good enough”. Instead of “I’ll never be as good as so and so”, let’s try “I am as good as or better than so and so”. And just who the hell sold you the bill of goods that you aren’t and/or can’t be as good as someone else? You can be just as good as you put your heart, mind, and soul into.

Never sell yourself short. You are doing yourself a disservice. Buck up, chin up, and get your game on. You are an awesome person and you deserve to succeed just as much as the next guy, maybe even more so! I want to see that inner light in you shine bright. Don’t be afraid to come out of the dark, it’s very nice here in the light. Live a little. Smell the roses. And quit being your own worst roadblock to success.

Kelli Jacobson is a Networking Mompreneur. She is a Mom to a 1 1/2 year old son and has been involved in Internet Marketing now for over two years. Her specialties are blogging, social media, and free to low-cost marketing methods. If you would like to learn more about Kelli, please see Who Is Kelli Jacobson. See you on the inside!

When is the last time you gave someone a compliment or told someone they are doing a great job at something? It seems in adult life that we are conditioned to always find the negative in anything and point it out. When we are raising children, it is encouraged that we acknowledge their good behaviors in order to reinforce the fact that we want them to do that behavior again. By rewarding a child’s good behavior, it boosts their confidence and self-esteem and makes them want to do more good things to please us. However, as adults we somehow have forgotten the art of compliments and focus on only telling someone what they have done wrong.

It seems to me, that the saying “You catch more flies with honey than you do vinegar” is appropriate. If we focused on telling the people in our life that they have done something right, it will make them want to do more good things to please us. It helps build confidence and self-esteem and all around makes them a better person.

Think about someone in your life that has done something good, has had some kind of success, and pay them a compliment or recognition. It will go far in boosting that person up and enable them to come into a better mindset about themselves so that they continue to do good things.

I like to make it a habit to always find something good that someone has done and let them know that I think that they have done awesome and that they matter to me. If we boost each other up all the time it will be a far better world then always bringing someone down. Let’s focus on the positive and make this world a better place!

If you are miserable right now, it’s because you choose to be.  If your today isn’t shaping up like you want it to, you and you alone have the power to change your tomorrow.

Quite literally, you are miserable right now because of the thoughts you are thinking.  If you don’t like the way something is, change your perceptions, change your thought patterns.  Choose to be happy.  When you choose a new outlook on life, it can change how you feel and how you respond to events.  Most importantly, you need to quit blaming outside uncontrollable forces for your problems and challenges in life.  Through your thoughts you have made decisions and those decisions have led you on the path you are on.  The path of life has many forks and branches.  Will you continue on the same path or will you ignite the power in you right now and choose a new, better, and brighter path?  Your future is up to you.  It is what you make it.

It all comes down to the power of your thoughts and decisions.  You can stay miserable by continuing to think the way you do, or you can choose to think different thoughts, happier thoughts, more productive thoughts, and therefore alter the decisions that you make based on those thoughts, and become a happier, more enjoyable person.  Change isn’t always easy.  Your mind is going to want to resist it.  But your mind is not in control, you are.  There is a saying by Albert Einstein “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”.  If you want to see a change, the change has to begin with you.  Choose better thoughts.  Make better decisions.

I would like to ask everyone to help me with a challenge of mine.  I struggle with receiving compliments and recognition.  I always just brush it off as nothing, and I need to stop doing that and be open to receiving.  I give so much of myself, asking little if anything in return.

When I worked and got awards, I would just shrug them off as it was part of my job and just something I did because it was the right thing to do or was good for the company.  I never took and understood the full weight of the compliments and recognition.

In one way, I like compliments and recognition, and in another, I don’t.  It’s just something I do, something that is a part of me.  It was strange at work, I would see other employees who were so slow and did next to nothing and it always irked me.  I always put in 110% and couldn’t understand why others didn’t.  I think that’s why they liked me so much.  I was always producing more and always asking for more responsibility always taking the initiative to create something better.  Like I said, it’s just a part of me, something I have always done.  I’m a better giver than receiver.

So, I want your help with my challenge of receiving.  If you know me, whether by an online association or you have met me in real life, I want you to leave a comment with a compliment or recognition so that I can learn to accept them more and easier.

Thanks!  As John Jackson always says, you all inspire me.  Thank you for being a part of my life.  I am truly blessed.

As children, when it would rain, we would beg our parents to go outside and play. We loved to dance and play in the rain, splashing in every puddle we could find. Then, as adults, we learned to detest the rain. We complain about the rain, we rush to get through it as fast as possible to our destination.

Back in February 2009, I began a full court press to my own personal development. I had been in quite the rut. Recently, I have noticed a profound change in myself. I can remember just a few years ago, being at a Renaissance Fest and it was raining. I was cranky and miserable and hated being out in the rain (my bad attitude might also have had something to do with the company I was with).

But now, recently, I have found myself watching the rain outside with joy, even standing outside in the rain and loving it, finding peace with it. And it all has to do with my attitude towards it. I have reverted back to my child-like wonder at it. I am a much more happier and content person now. It’s amazing what a little attitude shift can do for a person.

If you want to feel more alive, be grateful for the things around you (good or bad everything has a lesson to teach), keep a positive focus, and practice positive thinking. I am very thankful that I have started to think positively again, it’s opened up a whole new world that I thought I had lost access to.

Embrace Life for all that it has to offer you and Create Your Greatest Day!

I believe that if we can change our thought patterns from the negative focus that we are trained from a very young age to think in, to a positive focus, that we can achieve greatness.

Often, when we start to dream big, we back off.  For so long we’ve been told to not get our hopes up, that we’ll only be disappointed.  But I say why not?  Why not dream big?  There is a saying, “Shoot for the Moon, even if you miss, you’ll land amongst the Stars”.  You may not get exactly what you dream for, but you can get somewhere really close.  And perhaps, equally as satisfying.

I believe in the Law of Attraction.  What you think about, you receive.  So, if you continue thinking in negative terms, then that is what you will get.  But, if you can turn those negative thoughts around and turn them into positive thoughts, you will be amazed at how you feel, and what you receive as a result of your thoughts.

I have been a very negative thinker.  I still do have negative thoughts.  Thirty-six years of training to think negatively is hard to change.  But I work on it a little each day.  And each day is brighter than the next.  I started off with a few simple things.  I wanted to be loved and appreciated.  With thinking those thoughts, I changed a pattern of being written up at work, to being given awards and accolades and being told how much my hard work is appreciated.  I can tell you, that really feels great.  My relationship with my husband went from hum-drum to being loved and adored and small little things being done for me.  The constant flow of affection is wonderful.

I did ask for money.  But, I realized why I wasn’t getting it.  I’m not ready yet.  I’m still thinking thoughts that block me from receiving what I think I want.  In a way, I’m scared.  I’m scared that if I suddenly come into a lot of money, that I’ll be expected to act a certain way.  The perception that rich people are snobs and pretentious is what scares me.  I don’t want to become that way.  I don’t want to look down at people who don’t have what I have.  I don’t want to be expected to have certain things, like a mansion and a sporty car.

What I would like to have, is a perfect and efficient home for me and my family.  One that is sustainable.  One that I’m not spending forever taking care of or having to hire someone to take care of for me.  Now, I might hire a landscaper, they are useful.  But, I do want my home to be efficient.  To be able to house our massive collection of books and DVD’s in built in shelves.  A more efficient computer room to make it more comfortable and more of an office space, rather than a small bedroom converted to a computer room, that is cramped and there not being enough room for making it an efficient space.  Perhaps a closet that is a true walk-in closet, big enough that there is no crowding; you are not shoulder to shoulder with clothing.  A nice deep jetted tub would be nice for soothing the aches away when needed, yet, a nice roomy shower for everyday use.  A nice sunroom with lots of crystals, the big amethyst geode types, and whatever else suits my fancy as to whatever metaphysical properties I might be looking for. And one of those humongous suede covered pillows (sometimes called LoveSacs) – they are so comfortable to be in.  As you can see, it’s relatively simple things that please me.  Not big grandiose “status” symbols.  I could care less about that.  I just want to be me.  I march to the beat of my own drum, and I’d like to stay that way.

Now that I’ve clarified what it is that I want, I believe that it will come to manifest.  Belief is half that battle.  If you don’t believe that you can receive what you want, then guess what?  You will not receive it.  You have to believe.  You can be, do, or have anything that you want.  You just have to believe in it and match your thoughts to the frequency to receive it.

People often say, how can I think I’m a success if I’m not successful yet?  Well, you have to start somewhere, and you don’t want to start by thinking that you aren’t a success.  To manifest change in anything, you have to change yourself.  Everything you have right now is a product of your thoughts and beliefs.  If what you have right now is not what you want, or is not your dream, then you need to change the way you think and believe in order to be able to manifest the changes you want to see.  Get clear in your mind of what you want.  Write it down.  Put pictures up for you to see of the things you want.  Give yourself something to focus on.  And make sure that the thoughts you are thinking are in line with what you want and that they are positive.  Make sure you are not putting a negative spin on things.  Don’t qualify a thought with a negative ending.  Such as, I want “something” free of “something else”.  When you do that, you are still focusing on the negative, even though you think that you are turning the thought positive.  Just leave that last part out and focus on just the main thing.  For example, if you want more money, don’t say I want more money without being in debt to anyone.  Just say, I want more money.  Perhaps you can add, money flows to me freely and easily.  Leave the “without fear”, “free of pain”, “no more problems”, and other statements of the like, out of your thought patterns.  State clearly and concisely what you want, period.

When you find yourself thinking those negative thoughts again, just stop, back up, and change it.  The instant you change it to a positive thought, it will instantly put you back on the positive frequency to receive that which you are wanting.

There is something else to consider when you are thinking about wanting more money.  When asking for more money, leave out any thoughts of “paying off bills”, “getting out of debt”, and other similar thoughts.  Because when you are thinking those things, you are still focusing on your bills and your debt and whatnot and therefore attracting more of the same to yourself.  Envision yourself with money coming to you freely and easily and it flowing in and out of your life with ease and you having everything that you want.  Picture yourself happy.  Think about how you will feel once you have all this money flowing to you freely and easily.

Another thing you can do is to feel good about yourself now, be thankful for your situation now.  The power of feeling good right now and being grateful for what you currently have, even though it may not be exactly what you want (because it is the fruits of your previous thoughts) will help put you in line with the frequency you need to be on to achieve and manifest those things that you truly do want.

So, start today.  Get clear in your mind what it is that you want.  Write it down.  Gather pictures of it.  Do whatever it takes to put your focus on achieving and manifesting your dreams.

Dream Big.  Dream Often.  Dream Well.

Here is to your success.  May it be everything you dreamed of and more.

The Universe delivers what you ask for. And you ask for these things via your thoughts. So, suffice it to say, if you are thinking negatively, the Universe is going to deliver negative things. Don’t you think it’s about time to start changing your thinking patterns right now?

You might say that’s easier said than done. Well, I am here to help you gain a better perspective. It’s easier to do thank you think.

We are trained from a young age to think things are hard and that to get anything and anywhere in life, you have to work hard at it. While in a sense that can be true, but it’s not entirely true. Things only have to be hard if you make them hard. If you think that it takes hard work, then it WILL take hard work. Have you ever noticed people who things just come easily to? Guess what? They don’t have the thought that things need to be hard in order to achieve results. They think thoughts that things are easy to do.

It’s interesting how some people can pick up skills very easily, and others can’t seem to put two and two together in the same skill. Take me for example. I am a natural computer user. I have no fear of the computer. Computers come very easily to me. I am pretty much self-taught on computers. From formatting Word and Excel documents, to playing online computer games, to hand-coding HTML, it all comes very easy and natural to me. And I’m not even entirely sure why. It just does. And I embrace that. To me, my thoughts are computers are easy, they are natural, and they are nothing to be afraid of. Others who can’t seem to pick up computer skills to save their lives have thoughts of computers are hard, difficult, and unfriendly. So, naturally, the Universe is going to deliver to them, a hard time grasping those computer skills.

Now let’s talk next about turning negative thinking or statements into positive thinking or statements. Many people think that they are thinking positively, but they aren’t. And let me share with you why they are not really thinking positively. They make one big mistake. They follow up their thought or statement with a caveat, or a negative twist. Something like, “I feel great… I am in no pain”. Well, guess what, there’s that negative – there’s that “pain” that they thought they were getting rid of.

So, let’s do a little footwork to try to learn how to turn negative statements into positive statements. We need to totally get rid of the negative and keep it completely positive. Let’s start with some examples.

Say someone has a blood clot, or they have heart problems (blocked or clogged arteries). Instead of saying “I want to be free from any blockages or clogging”, let’s try something like “My blood flows through my arteries and veins freely, easily, and effortlessly”. See how that was completely positive, and actually said what the person wanted, and not what they don’t want? That’s what you have to do. Get away from thinking about what you don’t want because the more you focus on what you don’t want, the more you will get what you don’t want. Whether you want it or not, it’s what you are focused on that you will get. Let’s try another example. Say someone wants more money. Instead of saying “I want more money so that I can get out of debt” (see the negative on the end of that statement – debt?). Try something like “I have more than enough cash to provide me the services and goods that I want”. There, that’s completely positive and focuses entirely on what the person wants, instead of what they don’t want. Let’s try one more, just so that you have the idea down pat. Instead of “I feel great today… I’m not having any pain in my back” try “I feel great today… I can move my back freely and easily and have complete flexibility”. Bingo! Completely positive and focused on what the person wants.

I hope you’ve gotten the idea here. Take one thought, right now, that you have been thinking and take all negativity away from it and turn it totally positive. Focus on that positive statement. Give yourself a chance to succeed.

Do not fear success, fear failure. You can only fail if you let yourself. You are the creator of your life, so live well, my friends.