People are told every day that they don’t deserve something, that they can’t have something, or won’t ever have something.

Why are you letting someone else determine what you deserve or what you can or cannot have? Why are you giving your power away?

Fear rules a lot of people. There are two kinds of fear. Authentic fear and inauthentic fear. Authentic fear is a bear outside of your opened tent flap while camping. Inauthentic fear is the negative story that you tell yourself. It’s a fear that lives in your mind, and your mind alone.

So, when a fear pops up, you need to analyze it. Is it authentic or inauthentic? If it’s inauthentic, you must dispel that fear in order to move on. Write it down in a journal and in detail. Then look at it. Is that fear serving you? I would guess that it isn’t. If it’s not, then you need to move past that fear.

Visualize (visualization is key and a very important step to success) your life as if that fear was not true, if the opposite happened. Such as, if your fear is of success or of failure. What would your life be like if you were actually successful? It would be amazing and wonderful, wouldn’t it? I think the fear of success or failure comes down to what I said in the beginning.

We are conditioned to survive, not thrive. We are programmed that we are only worth so much, and in most cases, that’s not much. We are told, you’ll never amount to anything or you’ll never have whatever it is that you want. (A story I recently heard was that John Reese used to take an auto trader magazine to the video store where he worked to read on his breaks. He would look at the Porsche that he was going to buy. His boss saw him doing this and told him that he shouldn’t do that to himself because it was very very likely, that that is never going to happen, that it was very likely he was never going to have that car. He told his boss, that no, he didn’t realize, it was inevitible that he was going to drive back to his workplace one day in the near future in his Porsche and return videos to them that they have to put away. And he did just that – funny though, they all thought it was his Dad’s car – they still didn’t believe it could be his…) Parents also often tell their children that they shouldn’t go to college or go into a career in art/music/drama because it’s iffy, it’s not stable, and it’s not secure. But, it’s that child’s dream, not the parent’s.

Don’t ever let anyone steal your dreams. You need to go for what your dreams lead you to. Take that power. You, and only you, have the right to tell yourself what you deserve or what you can have. You can have anything you want in this world as long as you believe.

Some food for thought on overcoming adversity, fear, and the objections of others:

Lucille Ball was told she was wasting her time because she was too shy to put her best foot forward…

The Beatles were told that the recording company didn’t like their sound, that guitar music was on the way out…

Ulysses S. Grant was a failed soldier, farmer, and real estate agent and went to work for his father as a handyman…

Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team and went home and cried…

Thomas Edison’s teacher told him he was too stupid to learn anything that he should go into a field where he might succeed by the virtue of his pleasant personality…

Walt Disney was fired from his newspaper because he lacked imagination and had no original ideas…

Abraham Lincoln’s fiance died, he failed in business twice, he had a nervous breakdown, and he was defeated in eight elections…

If you’ve never failed, you’ve never lived. Life equals risk.

Video by BluefishTV.com http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2dbeJkY6QGk

(Just some background on this video from my perspective: My uncle sent me a link to this video; unbeknownst to him, that just that afternoon I had to resign from my job [turned out to be a good thing though - I'm now home with my family and thriving in my home business]. I sent him back a message thanking him, that he didn’t know how much I needed that right now. Later I had posted about my resigning on my Facebook, and he read that, and thought back to my comment about needing that video right at that moment, and tears came to his eyes – he was touched because he had touched someone else…)

Overcome your fears and let your dreams shine. You are the master of your future. Make it a bright one!

Kelli Jacobson
Internet Marketing Entrepreneur
Live Abundantly Successful
Inspiring Others to Live the Life they Truly Desire

To lead a successful life, you have choices and decisions to make every day. Every hour, every minute, every second of your day you have choices and decisions to make about how you are going to experience your life. How do you want your life to be? Are you going to sit idly by and let life pass you by or are you going to grab the bull by the horns and take charge of your life?

Many people, when faced with choices and decisions, passively say “I don’t know”. When asked what you want for lunch, what do you say? For many, they say “I don’t know, what do you want?” and pass that decision to someone else. In doing that, you are giving away your power to someone else. Is that really what you want?

I know at work, the ladies, me included, would start planning lunch at around 9 O’clock in the morning because it would take us that long to decide what we want because we would go the rounds of the “I don’t know, what do you want?” merry-go-round. There were some that were brave and would throw out some suggestions. Those, folks, were the leaders. They knew what they wanted and they asked for it. That’s what leaders do.

It’s as simple as that. Figure out what it is that you want and ask for it. Make that choice. Make that decision. It’s not going to hurt you. It’s going to enrich your life experience because it will be YOUR life experience, not someone else’s. Take the power into your hands and ask for what you want. This is your life you are dealing with. Do you want to live by someone else’s rules, or your own? I choose to live my life by my terms. I hope you do to!

Now, how can you do this? Well, when someone asks you what you want, instead of saying “I don’t know, what do you want?” take a moment to think about what it is that you want. Stop and ask yourself, if you had a choice and you could have anything that you wanted, what would you want? Do you want Chinese for lunch instead of Mexican? Do you want that scarf in red instead of black? Do you want to go to the club with your friends for a night out instead of staying home again? Give yourself the power to think about what you want and then ask for what you want.

The only way you are going to live your life successfully is if you take the power to make your own decisions. Make your own decisions about what you want, not what you think others want. You are here on this earth to live YOUR life, not someone else’s. So why are you letting someone else make your decisions for you?

Start now by asking yourself what you want and answer yourself with what you really truly desire. Empower yourself to make that choice, to make that decision. Enrich your life by living it the way YOU want to.

To your success!

Kelli Jacobson
Internet Marketing Entrepreneur
Live Abundantly Successful
Inspiring Others to Live the Life they Truly Desire

The Law of Attraction states that what you think about you create.  So, take a moment in your day to do some daily affirmations to reinforce your subconscious mind with positive thoughts.

I have released the second video in the Inspire Your Mind Series, Daily Affirmations of Success.  May it Inspire Your Mind with Success!

Kelli Jacobson
Live Abundantly Successful

The Law of Attraction states that what you think about you create.  So, take a moment in your day to do some daily affirmations to reinforce your subconscious mind with positive thoughts.

I have released the first video in the Inspire Your Mind Series, Daily Affirmations of Abundance.  May it Inspire Your Mind with Abundance!

Kelli Jacobon
Live Abundantly Successful

I believe that if we can change our thought patterns from the negative focus that we are trained from a very young age to think in, to a positive focus, that we can achieve greatness.

Often, when we start to dream big, we back off.  For so long we’ve been told to not get our hopes up, that we’ll only be disappointed.  But I say why not?  Why not dream big?  There is a saying, “Shoot for the Moon, even if you miss, you’ll land amongst the Stars”.  You may not get exactly what you dream for, but you can get somewhere really close.  And perhaps, equally as satisfying.

I believe in the Law of Attraction.  What you think about, you receive.  So, if you continue thinking in negative terms, then that is what you will get.  But, if you can turn those negative thoughts around and turn them into positive thoughts, you will be amazed at how you feel, and what you receive as a result of your thoughts.

I have been a very negative thinker.  I still do have negative thoughts.  Thirty-six years of training to think negatively is hard to change.  But I work on it a little each day.  And each day is brighter than the next.  I started off with a few simple things.  I wanted to be loved and appreciated.  With thinking those thoughts, I changed a pattern of being written up at work, to being given awards and accolades and being told how much my hard work is appreciated.  I can tell you, that really feels great.  My relationship with my husband went from hum-drum to being loved and adored and small little things being done for me.  The constant flow of affection is wonderful.

I did ask for money.  But, I realized why I wasn’t getting it.  I’m not ready yet.  I’m still thinking thoughts that block me from receiving what I think I want.  In a way, I’m scared.  I’m scared that if I suddenly come into a lot of money, that I’ll be expected to act a certain way.  The perception that rich people are snobs and pretentious is what scares me.  I don’t want to become that way.  I don’t want to look down at people who don’t have what I have.  I don’t want to be expected to have certain things, like a mansion and a sporty car.

What I would like to have, is a perfect and efficient home for me and my family.  One that is sustainable.  One that I’m not spending forever taking care of or having to hire someone to take care of for me.  Now, I might hire a landscaper, they are useful.  But, I do want my home to be efficient.  To be able to house our massive collection of books and DVD’s in built in shelves.  A more efficient computer room to make it more comfortable and more of an office space, rather than a small bedroom converted to a computer room, that is cramped and there not being enough room for making it an efficient space.  Perhaps a closet that is a true walk-in closet, big enough that there is no crowding; you are not shoulder to shoulder with clothing.  A nice deep jetted tub would be nice for soothing the aches away when needed, yet, a nice roomy shower for everyday use.  A nice sunroom with lots of crystals, the big amethyst geode types, and whatever else suits my fancy as to whatever metaphysical properties I might be looking for. And one of those humongous suede covered pillows (sometimes called LoveSacs) – they are so comfortable to be in.  As you can see, it’s relatively simple things that please me.  Not big grandiose “status” symbols.  I could care less about that.  I just want to be me.  I march to the beat of my own drum, and I’d like to stay that way.

Now that I’ve clarified what it is that I want, I believe that it will come to manifest.  Belief is half that battle.  If you don’t believe that you can receive what you want, then guess what?  You will not receive it.  You have to believe.  You can be, do, or have anything that you want.  You just have to believe in it and match your thoughts to the frequency to receive it.

People often say, how can I think I’m a success if I’m not successful yet?  Well, you have to start somewhere, and you don’t want to start by thinking that you aren’t a success.  To manifest change in anything, you have to change yourself.  Everything you have right now is a product of your thoughts and beliefs.  If what you have right now is not what you want, or is not your dream, then you need to change the way you think and believe in order to be able to manifest the changes you want to see.  Get clear in your mind of what you want.  Write it down.  Put pictures up for you to see of the things you want.  Give yourself something to focus on.  And make sure that the thoughts you are thinking are in line with what you want and that they are positive.  Make sure you are not putting a negative spin on things.  Don’t qualify a thought with a negative ending.  Such as, I want “something” free of “something else”.  When you do that, you are still focusing on the negative, even though you think that you are turning the thought positive.  Just leave that last part out and focus on just the main thing.  For example, if you want more money, don’t say I want more money without being in debt to anyone.  Just say, I want more money.  Perhaps you can add, money flows to me freely and easily.  Leave the “without fear”, “free of pain”, “no more problems”, and other statements of the like, out of your thought patterns.  State clearly and concisely what you want, period.

When you find yourself thinking those negative thoughts again, just stop, back up, and change it.  The instant you change it to a positive thought, it will instantly put you back on the positive frequency to receive that which you are wanting.

There is something else to consider when you are thinking about wanting more money.  When asking for more money, leave out any thoughts of “paying off bills”, “getting out of debt”, and other similar thoughts.  Because when you are thinking those things, you are still focusing on your bills and your debt and whatnot and therefore attracting more of the same to yourself.  Envision yourself with money coming to you freely and easily and it flowing in and out of your life with ease and you having everything that you want.  Picture yourself happy.  Think about how you will feel once you have all this money flowing to you freely and easily.

Another thing you can do is to feel good about yourself now, be thankful for your situation now.  The power of feeling good right now and being grateful for what you currently have, even though it may not be exactly what you want (because it is the fruits of your previous thoughts) will help put you in line with the frequency you need to be on to achieve and manifest those things that you truly do want.

So, start today.  Get clear in your mind what it is that you want.  Write it down.  Gather pictures of it.  Do whatever it takes to put your focus on achieving and manifesting your dreams.

Dream Big.  Dream Often.  Dream Well.

Here is to your success.  May it be everything you dreamed of and more.

How to Achieve Success in 3 Simple Steps

1. Believe in Yourself
2. Successful Thinking
3. Be Grateful

Believe in Yourself

You have to start out with believing in yourself.  If you don’t believe in yourself, who else will?  Believe that you have the power for greatness.  That you can change the world.  That you can be successful.  It may be hard at first, but you can do it.  You have to.  Belief is a very powerful thing.  It sets into motion, that which you are believing.

Successful Thinking

Start thinking you are a success.  You may say, “Well, I’m not successful yet”.  That’s okay.  You need to start thinking you are successful to bring about that success.  What you think will start to manifest, and then you will be successful.  If you have problems thinking of yourself as a success, think about what you can do that will make you feel successful.  Just something small.  And then do that.  Once you achieve that small step of success, it may make it easier for you to start feeling successful.

Be Grateful

Wake up in the morning and think of all the things you have to be thankful for.  Make every day a Thanksgiving.  Let the Universe, Spirit, Deity (whatever you believe in) know what you are grateful for.  It might be as simple as you are alive.  Or that you have a roof over your head and food in your stomach.  Or that you have a wonderful spouse or child.  Whatever it is, say thank you for it and let it be known how grateful you are for it.  Once you start being grateful for things, then it changes your mindset to be thankful and grateful for all the new wonderful things that will come into your life.

Embrace life and make it what you want to be.  Believe in yourself, think successful thoughts, and be grateful for all the wonderful things in your life.  You will see your life changing for the good.  You will see yourself as a success.

Your thoughts and beliefs control your life experiences.  You are drawn to the things and the experiences to prove to yourself that your beliefs are correct.  So, if you believe that you don’t have enough money and you never will, guess what?  You won’t have enough money and you never will.  Because that’s what you believe.  You are drawing to you the experiences that will make that belief true to you.  You attract what you think about and what you believe.  So, be careful about what you think about and believe.  Be aware of your thoughts and beliefs and you can create the life you desire.  Your desires control your destiny.  So, start today, creating a better life, by being more aware of your beliefs and thoughts, getting rid of the negative ones and the ones that are not bringing you what you want, and create new, positive thoughts and beliefs that will bring to you what you want.

The Universe delivers what you ask for. And you ask for these things via your thoughts. So, suffice it to say, if you are thinking negatively, the Universe is going to deliver negative things. Don’t you think it’s about time to start changing your thinking patterns right now?

You might say that’s easier said than done. Well, I am here to help you gain a better perspective. It’s easier to do thank you think.

We are trained from a young age to think things are hard and that to get anything and anywhere in life, you have to work hard at it. While in a sense that can be true, but it’s not entirely true. Things only have to be hard if you make them hard. If you think that it takes hard work, then it WILL take hard work. Have you ever noticed people who things just come easily to? Guess what? They don’t have the thought that things need to be hard in order to achieve results. They think thoughts that things are easy to do.

It’s interesting how some people can pick up skills very easily, and others can’t seem to put two and two together in the same skill. Take me for example. I am a natural computer user. I have no fear of the computer. Computers come very easily to me. I am pretty much self-taught on computers. From formatting Word and Excel documents, to playing online computer games, to hand-coding HTML, it all comes very easy and natural to me. And I’m not even entirely sure why. It just does. And I embrace that. To me, my thoughts are computers are easy, they are natural, and they are nothing to be afraid of. Others who can’t seem to pick up computer skills to save their lives have thoughts of computers are hard, difficult, and unfriendly. So, naturally, the Universe is going to deliver to them, a hard time grasping those computer skills.

Now let’s talk next about turning negative thinking or statements into positive thinking or statements. Many people think that they are thinking positively, but they aren’t. And let me share with you why they are not really thinking positively. They make one big mistake. They follow up their thought or statement with a caveat, or a negative twist. Something like, “I feel great… I am in no pain”. Well, guess what, there’s that negative – there’s that “pain” that they thought they were getting rid of.

So, let’s do a little footwork to try to learn how to turn negative statements into positive statements. We need to totally get rid of the negative and keep it completely positive. Let’s start with some examples.

Say someone has a blood clot, or they have heart problems (blocked or clogged arteries). Instead of saying “I want to be free from any blockages or clogging”, let’s try something like “My blood flows through my arteries and veins freely, easily, and effortlessly”. See how that was completely positive, and actually said what the person wanted, and not what they don’t want? That’s what you have to do. Get away from thinking about what you don’t want because the more you focus on what you don’t want, the more you will get what you don’t want. Whether you want it or not, it’s what you are focused on that you will get. Let’s try another example. Say someone wants more money. Instead of saying “I want more money so that I can get out of debt” (see the negative on the end of that statement – debt?). Try something like “I have more than enough cash to provide me the services and goods that I want”. There, that’s completely positive and focuses entirely on what the person wants, instead of what they don’t want. Let’s try one more, just so that you have the idea down pat. Instead of “I feel great today… I’m not having any pain in my back” try “I feel great today… I can move my back freely and easily and have complete flexibility”. Bingo! Completely positive and focused on what the person wants.

I hope you’ve gotten the idea here. Take one thought, right now, that you have been thinking and take all negativity away from it and turn it totally positive. Focus on that positive statement. Give yourself a chance to succeed.

Do not fear success, fear failure. You can only fail if you let yourself. You are the creator of your life, so live well, my friends.

When you start to think positively you open up so many doors in your world.

It’s not easy, but it CAN be done. I’m sure you have several years of programming to re-program. With doing a little bit each day, soon you will be on the road to being positive all the time.

Start with some positive affirmations. One very powerful one is:

I am Whole
I am Perfect
I am Strong
I am Healthy
I am Harmonious
I am Happy

These are the main things that everyone wants.

You can use the ‘I Am’ statement before anything that you are wanting to start bringing it to you.

The Universe has no choice but to give you what you ask for.

A great way to start your day is to be thankful. Before you even roll out of bed in the morning, Thank God (Goddess, Buddah, Universe, whoever your deity of choice is) for your wonderful day. Start out thinking you will have a wonderful day, and that is what the Universe will deliver to you.

It was Valentine’s Day 2009 and my husband and I had gone out to an early dinner, gone over and gotten our movie tickets, but still had time to spare. So, we walked over to the bookstore and I immediately went to the New Age section to just browse. I never buy books in a bookstore because I can always go home and get on Amazon.com and get them cheaper. However… this day was different.

I was browsing all the books in the section and my eyes kept coming back to The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. I looked at it, and it seemed interesting. I would put it down and look at some of the other books… but I kept getting drawn back to this particular book. I couldn’t put it down. It wouldn’t let me put it down. Something in my gut was saying buy this book… buy it now… you can not wait… you must buy it now. I’m one to pay attention to my instincts… so, I bought the book. We put it in the car and then went to enjoy our movie.

I got home and sometimes, when I buy books, I’ll just put them on the overloaded bookshelves to pick up later… sometimes I think I buy books just to have them in our self-imposed library… But, this time, I delved right in that night. Not only was I enthralled with the book… I was also compelled to buy the book for a few of my friends before I had even finished reading my copy.

I’ve never done this before. I was never so compelled to share something with my friends like this in my life. But this was important. My gut was just telling me I had to do this. So, I got on Amazon.com (the smart way) and bought 3 copies, along with a copy of the DVD for myself. As soon as I got them in, I composed a letter explaining my madness and mailed them off. They both ended up thanking me. And a third friend I actually hand delivered the copy. She was very thankful.

This book has changed my life… It can change yours too. I can’t recommend this book enough. It’s not the end all… it’s a starting point… but it’s a great starting point on your journey to personal freedom!